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It reminds me a bit of that old saying, “You spot it, you got it” Meaning that those qualities that most disturb us in others are usually qualities we exhibit ourselves.

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Oh I haven’t before heard, “you spot it, you got it” Bridget, but I love that, and yes it’s exactly the same thing. Thanks for sharing that♥️🙏🏼🕊

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Thank you, Camilla! Love how you got from Oppenheimer (“I have become Death, destroyer of worlds”) to “And I am that, too.” Such a great reminder of humility and the freedom that I’ve felt when identifying with the Witness, knowing that if I’m triggered there’s the work. And the other way, too. If someone is hostile or difficult to me, I can bear in mind that they are likely projecting, too, and (sometimes) feel empathy for them.

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Yes, exactly Julie! I have a sense that this is the most important work for human beings at this point in his-and-her-story😉 on our planet 🌎 I’m grateful you’re doing this inner work too!♥️🙏🏼🕊 (and yes, even when we may feel empathy and compassion for another, it’s always wise to remember to protect ourselves too♥️)

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Camilla, loved this exploration. Making people into "others" is creating these deep polarizations we are seeing in our world today. It is like a psychotic break with life, where everyone is becoming a single, stand alone, boxed in identity. Yes rarely does someone see another person as they are. Or able to self-reflect into understanding why they might be triggered. And yet this is what we are being asked to be and do. This seems to be my journey, to look inside and see our interdependence and innate connection. Challenging as it may be, but worth it!

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Yes, exactly Julie! While we are each just one drop in the ocean, my heart is lifted when I hear you are doing this inner work too. And yes to INTERDEPENDENCE and innate connection! This is exactly what the human species needs to recognize, understand and work towards right now.♥️🙏🏼🕊

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I really enjoyed this piece, Camilla. It really shows your open mindedness.

I remember hearing once that - if everyone around you seems like an asshole then you’re probably the asshole. I think that’s a good thing to remember in the sense that we control how we respond to the people around us. :)

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Thanks Michael, I literally laughed out loud with, "if everyone around you seems like an asshole then you’re probably the asshole."😆

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It is a good one :)

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Terrific essay. So glad you found me so that I could find you. I'd love for you to write for me on another site that I own with Joshua Dolezal and Sam Kahn. Write me personally and I'll explain. Here is my most recent post there: https://innerlifecollaborative.substack.com/p/henry-jaglom-director-filmmaker about film and women. I'll subscribe to you as well: You'll have my email address.

Also what a film about a physicist and that holds us in its brilliance and never lets go.

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Hi Mary, Thanks so much for reading and commenting, and I have just emailed you.✨🌟💖🙏🕊️

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